When Distraction is the Death of Your Dreams

Everyone has pet peeves.  One of my biggest nuisances is for people who have “pipe dreams,” particularly, those who do not realize that their dreams and goals aren’t going anywhere due to their lack of discipline.  When I come across these individuals who so confidently and eagerly share their plans with me, I smile and nod. Internally, though, I roll my eyes and think about how much laundry I need to wash when I get home.

I confess: I judge these day dreamers.  I’m amused by their lack of reality.  I secretly laugh at their continued hope for a train that is steadily passing them by.  I criticize these people – until I realized I was one of them.

Oh, the shame!

How could I possibly criticize others for things I’m not accomplishing myself? Easy. I tell myself I’m set a part. I’m not like them.  While I may in fact be my own person, the patterns that demonstrate I lack self-discipline and focus say otherwise.

Here’s an example: I would love to write on this blog at least three times per week, but I’ve barely posted once per month lately. Just like many others I speak to, I give excuses -really valid excuses – for my lack of achievement.  But regardless of my reasoning, I’m simply distracted by life. For anything that comes my way, whether it be work, family focuses, or just rest, I put it in front of my dreams, pushing them aside until I’m squinting to even see them in the distance.

It’s time to get honest with myself and ask some tough questions.  If not, my dreams will continue to pass by and slowly die off. My purpose will be given to others who actually do take the time to nurture them. (Did I mention that I often get jealous of others who once had an idea and are now achieving their dreams? Just shameful!)

To my community of pipe-dreamers dreamers and purpose-seekers, it’s time to get honest and push past the hurdles.  No one said pursuing your dreams would be simple, which is why some can’t achieve them.  We must fight hard to stay focused in spite of our distractions. Rather than judging others for such a commonly difficult skill, I want to learn how to persevere so that I can reach back and help those who could use a hand.

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Elana Cole is an author, educator, and coach who is passionate about helping others in their personal journeys towards a more beautiful life. She is the author of "The Midnight Experience" and creator of Empowered Narrative, a blog about transforming the way you live and love.

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